Counselling4Couples

What is Couple Counselling?

When you are having problems in your relationship, couple counselling offers a safe haven where you can explore and express your feelings, longings and fears in a safe way that pulls your partner closer rather than alientating them which enables you both to resolve issues.

Before giving up hope of healing your relationship, it's worth seeking out a couple counsellor. Of course, therapy isn't a magic cure and while a counsellor facilitates healing and change, it requires that you are both willing to change and committed to working on yourself and your relationship.

As an emotionally focused therapist and specialist couple counsellor, I can support you in undertaking a journey of deep exploration that takes you right to the heart of your issues. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a model of hope and transformation that brings attachment and emotions alive in the counselling room in a more experiential systemic way.

I work with the neutrality, specialist knowledge, skills, personal and professional experience needed to help heal emotions and transform relationships. I join and hold my couples right where they are with care and compassion. Everything discussed is strictly confidential and handled with warmth, gentle care and sensitivity.

Counselling for personal issues and relationship difficulties

I work with couples and individuals in a warm safe supportive environment which enables you to:

• Make sense of what you are feeling and gain clarity over what is actually going on within you and between you and your loved ones.
• Change how you might be negatively perceiving yourself or your partner by truly understanding how you react to and impact each other, thereby inadvertently triggering each other's worst fears and insecurities over and over again in an endless loop of pain and misery.
• Avoid painfully repetitive 'win-lose' arguments by communicating in an honest open-hearted way that helps you and your partner respond sensitively to each other's needs, instead of ending up feeling blamed, criticised, dismissed, resentful, guilty, rejected, unappreciated, inadequate, incapable, distrusted, disrespected or devalued.
• Heal emotionally from losing or ending your relationship and understanding your habitual relationship dynamics.
• Heal your relationship with adult family members, such as parents, grown children and siblings through safely facilitated conversations
• Accept, honour and more freely express different aspects of your unique personality.
• Build your confidence by healing the most important relationship of all - the relationship you have with yourself!

I highly recommend these books Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for A Lifetime of Love and The Love Secret: The revolutionary new science of romantic relationships by Dr. Sue Johnson, the originator of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples, individuals and families, with whom I have also trained. These books are to be used by all who seek a 'lifetime of love'.

Alternatively, if your relationship isn't in severe distress then a Hold Me Tight (HMT) couples workshop can be a great prelude to commencing or deciding if you even need couples therapy.

If you would like to find out more about couple counselling or getting support for personal and relationship issues, please email me at heleneigwebuike@gmail.com or text Helene on 0776 2333 644 to enquire about availability or request a brief conversation. A conversation or email doesn't mean you are under any obligation to book an appointment. Finding a counsellor that you feel comfortable with is important, so a telephone call or booking an initial consultation session can help you decide if we can work together.